Oct 26, 2014

I Now Pronounce you an ADD couple........

That was the name of an article I read today and it really got my mind to thinking!  That was me and my hubby 20 years ago at the young age of 19 and 21 and I didn't even know it then!  Really he didn't either.  Of course we were young, dumb, and in love!

MY marriage was going to be a fairytale and MY husband was going to do everything right and make all my dreams come true!  He was only going to concentrate of me and making me happy!  ME ME ME!!!!

So we come home from the honeymoon and probably that day ADD reared it's ugly head!   How in the world could he forget my birthday the first year of being married and leave me waiting at the restaurant for him for an hour only to never show because he got caught up fishing and forgot?  How could he not remember where his keys are every single day?  How can he look right at me and not hear me?  How could he have sent me a picture of his speedometer going 100 on a motorcycle? How could he be talking to our company one minute and sweeping the roof the next?
How was it that we were newlyweds but sometimes I felt alone in our house?
But how is it that he can remember every license plate number his parents ever had?  Weird.  He graduated number one in his police academy class!  He grew a small company to a multi million dollar company in a matter of years!  He forgot to get me a mother's day card???  What?  How are you going to remodel the bedroom when you haven't finished the garage?  The list goes on and on......the good and the frustrating!

Little did I know that God was teaching me how to live with my new husband that clearly has ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER!    I didn't know that at the time and to be honest it took me about 13 years to learn and not take everything so personal!
It took me a long time to learn how to live with him, how to get his attention without getting angry and many other things.  Anyone that knows our story knows that we were right on the brink of divorce at one time.  Looking back his ADD had a big role in those issues.  On his part and mine!  I am so thankful that God intervened and we won that fight!

They say most ADD sufferers are brilliant, creative, entrepreneurs, artists, musicians, writers, etc........

That is so true!  My husband is for sure brilliant, he has an entrepreneur spirit and had his own business by the time we were married 5 years, he can play drums and guitar by ear, can sing like a country music star, and is a risk taker that usually always pays off!  We took a risk by moving here and it was the best decision we have ever made for us and our future!

It's funny how over time my anger and resentment turned to compassion and understanding!  (Sometimes I fail at that....)  It took lots of prayer....still does!  Lots of patience....still isn't always easy and I still get upset at times but I try to understand he can't help it!

I wouldn't change him for anything!  ADD is only a small part of who he is.  He believes in everything I want to do.  He is my biggest fan when I want to do something!  He loves God with all he is and is a great leader in our home!  He has great intentions all the time.

Marc has chosen to not take medication and deal with it on his own.  That hasn't always been easy but we have learned.  He has learned things he needs to do and not do.

ADD is hereditary and so here I am with a complete clone of my hubby......my son!  I pray that God is preparing his wife in that department too!  I feel for her but I know that God knows who she is and she to will learn!  She will have a good teacher....Me!

This was the article that got me to thinking about all of this.

Oct 14, 2014

How Our Lives Have Changed..........

Wow!  First let me say that God's plan is always so much better then our plans we make for ourselves!  If you would have told me 5-10 years ago that I would live on a farm way down in South Texas (or farm in the making right now!) I would have cracked up laughing!  Even though we have always said that we would love to live on land and anyone that knows me knows that I LOVE farmhouses!

I find myself everyday loving this life more and more.  It's a very simple life! (Not at all saying I have a perfect life.....just one that God seemed to slow down and simplify!)  There are no stores in my town....only the school, the post office, the Sheriff's office, the courthouse and a few other things.  It's all in a little tiny square!  It's very quiet and the people here are very nice!  Our town is surrounded by ranches.

I was thinking of little things that I used to never let go like pedicures, my eyebrows and my nails!!!  I haven't had a pedicure in a while.  I bought the stuff that they use and I do it myself in the shower most nights.  My eyebrows are getting a little unruly!  :)  My nails just get messed up from working outside and around this house!

We have always wanted a garden and now we have one!  It's huge!!!!  It is still in the very beginning stages but the rows are growing slowly but surely.  Marc and Mr. Jim prayed over it after finally getting it all like it is supposed to be!
The other day I smiled after Jesse said he had garden chores he needed to get done!  I don't know why that made me happy but it did!  He worked hard to help his dad pull weeds and plant new things!
My prayer is that our garden over flows with veggies that we can share with our little community!

The schools!  My little ones go to a VERY small public school.  I can't even put into words how I feel about that school and the teachers/principle that God brought into my kid's lives!  As Jesse's science teacher said "I don't know how you guys found Sarita but I am sure glad you did!"  I thought that was so sweet and I totally agree with her!

Noah goes to school about 20 minutes from here and he loves it.  He has just fit right in and made so many friends!  I am in awe of what God did for our kids.
Even Taylor has said he misses Sarita!
Noah has a bus that picks him up about five minutes up the road and Marc takes him to his stop on his way to work.  The littles go at 7:30 and we literally live 1 minute from the school.  They CHOSE to go to an after school program that they LOVE so sometimes I don't get them until 5:30!  They aren't real happy if I show up early!

COOKING!  I literally cook every night.  Even the weekends.  We had Burger King yesterday for lunch because the kids got out early but they have not had fast food in a long time!  People this is big for me!  I am proud of myself too!

We are all home and around the dinner table eating dinner by 6:30 at the latest each night!  Only thing missing is Taylor!

Date night-  This has really changed!  We don't have a babysitter so we have slowly allowed Noah to babysit for us so we never go further than 10-15 minutes from the house.  We go to an old restaurant called Kings Inn that is famous with South Texas hunters and fisherman!  We go look at Baffin Bay and have even planned our next date night which we will go fishing!  :)  No more fancy restaurants or unlimited choices.  I love it!  As long as we are together it doesn't matter where or what we do!

We went back home to Baytown this past weekend and while I loved seeing everyone and I miss my friends we couldn't wait to get HOME!  I don't miss that traffic.....I was a nervous wreck on 59!  I love our country roads and no traffic!

We got our tractor yesterday and so this weekend will begin the clean up of the acreage so that we can finally get chickens and eventually horses for the kids!  We are looking now for somewhere for them to start taking riding lessons.  Jesse says he wants to be a bull rider!  OMG!  He said he would settle for bull dogging though!  :)

I love this new life God decided to give us and wouldn't change a thing!  We are blessed!