Sep 3, 2014

Courting or Dating?

My son Noah and I LOVE 19 kids and Counting!  I know a lot of people think they are crazy and maybe to the world they are BUT they definitely have some good kids.  I am thinking that if they weren't as "perfect" as they look then someone, somewhere would have already come out with a story or scandal but I can't seem to find one anywhere!  So, while I know they are not perfect I am going to believe that they definitely are doing something right.  
Lately, I have been so intrigued by their two older girls that are in a "courtship" with one now being married!  

As I write more keep that sweet face above in the picture in your mind!  My sweet Emily Grace!

I have started reading a lot on Courting and what it exactly means and the difference between that and dating.  I have read a lot about what the Duggar girls have to say on it and I totally agree with so much of what they say!  In our world today everything is "dirtied" or "sexed" up......I think those are real words!  But it's true!  I don't even let my kids watch music shows like the VMA's or Grammy's!  It's horrible what they are singing about and what you see on the screen.

Here are seven of the Duggar girl's rules to courtship....... Read the explanations of these rules here! CLICK HERE

Rule 1: Courting is not dating; it’s “dating with a purpose.” 

Rule 2: Three (or four, or 15) is NOT a crowd: There’s always a chaperone.

Rule 3: Brothers know best.  (This one makes me think of Emily on a date with her FOUR brothers.....one that is 13 years older, two that are Asian and one that could be a very intimidating black man one day!  LOL)

Rule 4: Texting? Ur parents r watching. 4 real.

Rule 5: No kissing or hand-holding.  (Until they are engaged then they can hold hands!)

Rule 6: To court a Duggar girl, you have to go through Dad.  (Poor boy that has to go through Marc!)

Rule 7: You can’t fail at courtship.

There are so many of the above rules that I agree with and think are great and who wouldn't want that for their children....especially our girls!  Don't they deserve that respect and purity?  I think they do!  I want my boys to be that man of God that respects girls and loves their spouse like Christ loves the church!  I want my daughter to marry a man who loves her that way.  I simply want the best for them!

Of course with this comes lots of question of HOW?  I have tons of questions like that.  Like what about if they go off to college in another town where you aren't there?  Are their many boys/men out there that are willing to "court"?  Any girls out there?  Is it sheltering them to much?  
And the list of questions go on.........

I am each morning praying for my boys and my sweet girl and asking God to prepare their mate now.....grow them into Godly women and Godly men.  So whether He chooses for them to date or to court I do not know but I do know that He has a plan for each other them!

We can set rules and instill morals and values but the rest is up to them and God!  

Good stuff to think about though for sure..........




2 comments:

Christy said...

I think courting is a great idea. Yesterday Cora told me how much she missed Emily. They are ao precious.

Tedra Jones said...

I LOVE the idea of courting...I have read many books about this. Joining you in prayer for your sweet babies. <3