Oct 26, 2014

I Now Pronounce you an ADD couple........

That was the name of an article I read today and it really got my mind to thinking!  That was me and my hubby 20 years ago at the young age of 19 and 21 and I didn't even know it then!  Really he didn't either.  Of course we were young, dumb, and in love!

MY marriage was going to be a fairytale and MY husband was going to do everything right and make all my dreams come true!  He was only going to concentrate of me and making me happy!  ME ME ME!!!!

So we come home from the honeymoon and probably that day ADD reared it's ugly head!   How in the world could he forget my birthday the first year of being married and leave me waiting at the restaurant for him for an hour only to never show because he got caught up fishing and forgot?  How could he not remember where his keys are every single day?  How can he look right at me and not hear me?  How could he have sent me a picture of his speedometer going 100 on a motorcycle? How could he be talking to our company one minute and sweeping the roof the next?
How was it that we were newlyweds but sometimes I felt alone in our house?
But how is it that he can remember every license plate number his parents ever had?  Weird.  He graduated number one in his police academy class!  He grew a small company to a multi million dollar company in a matter of years!  He forgot to get me a mother's day card???  What?  How are you going to remodel the bedroom when you haven't finished the garage?  The list goes on and on......the good and the frustrating!

Little did I know that God was teaching me how to live with my new husband that clearly has ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER!    I didn't know that at the time and to be honest it took me about 13 years to learn and not take everything so personal!
It took me a long time to learn how to live with him, how to get his attention without getting angry and many other things.  Anyone that knows our story knows that we were right on the brink of divorce at one time.  Looking back his ADD had a big role in those issues.  On his part and mine!  I am so thankful that God intervened and we won that fight!

They say most ADD sufferers are brilliant, creative, entrepreneurs, artists, musicians, writers, etc........

That is so true!  My husband is for sure brilliant, he has an entrepreneur spirit and had his own business by the time we were married 5 years, he can play drums and guitar by ear, can sing like a country music star, and is a risk taker that usually always pays off!  We took a risk by moving here and it was the best decision we have ever made for us and our future!

It's funny how over time my anger and resentment turned to compassion and understanding!  (Sometimes I fail at that....)  It took lots of prayer....still does!  Lots of patience....still isn't always easy and I still get upset at times but I try to understand he can't help it!

I wouldn't change him for anything!  ADD is only a small part of who he is.  He believes in everything I want to do.  He is my biggest fan when I want to do something!  He loves God with all he is and is a great leader in our home!  He has great intentions all the time.

Marc has chosen to not take medication and deal with it on his own.  That hasn't always been easy but we have learned.  He has learned things he needs to do and not do.

ADD is hereditary and so here I am with a complete clone of my hubby......my son!  I pray that God is preparing his wife in that department too!  I feel for her but I know that God knows who she is and she to will learn!  She will have a good teacher....Me!

This was the article that got me to thinking about all of this.
CLICK HERE!!!!



Oct 14, 2014

How Our Lives Have Changed..........

Wow!  First let me say that God's plan is always so much better then our plans we make for ourselves!  If you would have told me 5-10 years ago that I would live on a farm way down in South Texas (or farm in the making right now!) I would have cracked up laughing!  Even though we have always said that we would love to live on land and anyone that knows me knows that I LOVE farmhouses!

I find myself everyday loving this life more and more.  It's a very simple life! (Not at all saying I have a perfect life.....just one that God seemed to slow down and simplify!)  There are no stores in my town....only the school, the post office, the Sheriff's office, the courthouse and a few other things.  It's all in a little tiny square!  It's very quiet and the people here are very nice!  Our town is surrounded by ranches.

I was thinking of little things that I used to never let go like pedicures, my eyebrows and my nails!!!  I haven't had a pedicure in a while.  I bought the stuff that they use and I do it myself in the shower most nights.  My eyebrows are getting a little unruly!  :)  My nails just get messed up from working outside and around this house!

We have always wanted a garden and now we have one!  It's huge!!!!  It is still in the very beginning stages but the rows are growing slowly but surely.  Marc and Mr. Jim prayed over it after finally getting it all like it is supposed to be!
The other day I smiled after Jesse said he had garden chores he needed to get done!  I don't know why that made me happy but it did!  He worked hard to help his dad pull weeds and plant new things!
My prayer is that our garden over flows with veggies that we can share with our little community!

The schools!  My little ones go to a VERY small public school.  I can't even put into words how I feel about that school and the teachers/principle that God brought into my kid's lives!  As Jesse's science teacher said "I don't know how you guys found Sarita but I am sure glad you did!"  I thought that was so sweet and I totally agree with her!

Noah goes to school about 20 minutes from here and he loves it.  He has just fit right in and made so many friends!  I am in awe of what God did for our kids.
Even Taylor has said he misses Sarita!
Noah has a bus that picks him up about five minutes up the road and Marc takes him to his stop on his way to work.  The littles go at 7:30 and we literally live 1 minute from the school.  They CHOSE to go to an after school program that they LOVE so sometimes I don't get them until 5:30!  They aren't real happy if I show up early!

COOKING!  I literally cook every night.  Even the weekends.  We had Burger King yesterday for lunch because the kids got out early but they have not had fast food in a long time!  People this is big for me!  I am proud of myself too!

We are all home and around the dinner table eating dinner by 6:30 at the latest each night!  Only thing missing is Taylor!

Date night-  This has really changed!  We don't have a babysitter so we have slowly allowed Noah to babysit for us so we never go further than 10-15 minutes from the house.  We go to an old restaurant called Kings Inn that is famous with South Texas hunters and fisherman!  We go look at Baffin Bay and have even planned our next date night which we will go fishing!  :)  No more fancy restaurants or unlimited choices.  I love it!  As long as we are together it doesn't matter where or what we do!

We went back home to Baytown this past weekend and while I loved seeing everyone and I miss my friends we couldn't wait to get HOME!  I don't miss that traffic.....I was a nervous wreck on 59!  I love our country roads and no traffic!

We got our tractor yesterday and so this weekend will begin the clean up of the acreage so that we can finally get chickens and eventually horses for the kids!  We are looking now for somewhere for them to start taking riding lessons.  Jesse says he wants to be a bull rider!  OMG!  He said he would settle for bull dogging though!  :)

I love this new life God decided to give us and wouldn't change a thing!  We are blessed!








Sep 18, 2014

Some of my favorite moments.......

There are some things I wanted to write down so I can look back one day and remember how I felt at this time.........

1.  When my baby is girl is all bathed, hair washed and lathered up in Baby Magic and she sleeps between me and her daddy!  I love to cuddle up to her,  kiss on her cheeks and pray over her!  I secretly wish she would stay this age forever!

2.  When Vensly asks me a question and immediately follows it with "huh?  tell me???"  I don't know why that makes me laugh.  I also don't want to forget his Haitian accent that he still has.  Some things that he says in that accent make me laugh so hard!  He's has such a dry sense of humor!  He is obsessed with Lloyd from Legos and the way he said "Lloyd" can't help but make you smile.  I don't want to forget how he tells me he loves me about 20 times a day!

3.  Taylor-  because he is off at college I suddenly realized how much I miss the sound of his voice and how he always starts off our conversation with "hey momma".   Sometimes I lay in bed at night and can here him say that to me!  I hope he always calls me momma!  I love to hear how he misses his little guest house here in Sarita and how Sarita Farms is his HOME!  It goes to show you that home is where your family is not just a structure!

4.  Jesse-  I love how he's ALL BOY!  He loves trucks, trailers, transformers, ninjas, four wheelers, the bad boy mower, dirt and all things boy!  I love how outgoing he is at his new school!  Sometimes a little to much so.  I love how he loves me!  He is a momma's boy and he thinks I am the most beautiful girl and tells me all the time.  He will also say my butt is a little big as he pops me on my booty!!!!  LOL

5.  Noah- He is HILARIOUS!  He can make his dad and I laugh so hard.  His latest is his Obama impersonation.  I am telling you.....he's good!!!!!!  I love how sensitive he is and how kind his heart is.  He's my helper!  I love how he loves the Lord at such a young age and isn't afraid to show it or say it.  I pray that never changes!!!

6.  When I drive into my new driveway and see the trees and the dirt road and my sweet dogs!  I thank God for sending us here.  If someone can't sit on my front porch and hear the birds, watch the deer, and see all the beautiful trees and not believe in God, then I am not sure what could convince them!  I never want to forget the excitement of being home!

7.  Mine and hubby's talks on the front porch early in the morning or late at night!  Nothing better!

8.  When we dream of what Sarita Farms will be one day!  It could be amazing!

9.  Family dinners around our little bitty table when we have a big table that we would all fit but we cram around it and have the best talks!

10.  Knowing Taylor is home safe and sound even if it's for a couple of days!




Sep 16, 2014

My Wish List........

Here are some things I have been wanting lately but thinking I may should wait until Christmas....or longer for a few!  A girl can dream though huh?


1. Puffin Classics Children's Books   (These are going to be a Christmas present for Emily!)



2.  4-Piece Metal Chairs in Antique Sky Blue


3.  White Slip Covered Winged Back Chairs for the Living Room


4.  A new chandelier for over my dining room table!




6.  Stainless Steel Pots and Pans.......I need new pots and pans so bad but why is it always so hard to buy something like that when there are so many other pretty things I want for the house!  :)


Sep 11, 2014

My Biggest Weekly Menu Ever!

Living in the country and a town where there is not a grocery store you have to be prepared.....I have learned this the hard way the last couple of months!
I have cooked a lot.......more than I am used to but I actually kind of like it and I know my kids and hubby do too!
Tomorrow is grocery store day for me so I made my menu all the way through next weekend!  Did I mention my boy is coming to see me!!!  My college boy and he loves Cheese enchiladas so that is on the menu for then!  I can't wait!

So, here is my menu.  Most were taken from pinterest so if you are interested in the recipe just search there!

Thursday- Meat Loaf, mashed potatoes, and green beans!

Friday- Sour Cream Noodle Bake, salad and garlic bread  (Pioneer Woman)

Saturday- Homemade Pizza night!

Sunday- Crock Pot Roast and potatoes, carrots and green beans!  ROLLS!

Monday- Creamy Crouton Chicken, broccoli and mixed veggies!

Tuesday- Slow cooker burrito bowls with all the fixin's.

Wednesday- Crock Pot Pork Chops, rice, something green and rolls.

Thursday- Baked Chicken with potatoes, carrots and green beans.

Friday- Cheese Enchiladas, Sour Cream Spanish rice, black beans and salad.

Saturday- Homemade pizza night again!!!

Sunday-  Taking my boy out to eat after church before he leaves to go back to College Station!


Sep 4, 2014

You've got to move it move it........

Tuesday of this week I worked out for the first time since about December!  Talk about sore!!!!  I couldn't do anything yesterday because I could barely move but today I worked out again.  SO....that is twice this week and I will work out in the morning to.  Right now I am doing Fitness on Demand on our smart tv and basically doing 20 minute workouts that combine strength training with cardio.  Doesn't sound like very long but I am exhausted at the end but feel so good after I am done, showered and ready for the day!

I have been watching what I eat very closely this week and will start my meal plan next week.  I hope!  I can honestly say I am not good at prepping and following a plan.  I wish I was but I am not.  I have just cut out all snacks this week.  Just eating breakfast, lunch and a small supper!   Probably not what a nutritionist would say to do but I am starting by making small changes right now.

I saw a picture of myself tonight on my hubby's phone and I almost threw up!  It will for sure be my before picture.  I feel like this is it.......for my health and for myself I need to do this!
I am joining the gym here tomorrow and starting zumba on Monday morning.  I figure no one knows me here so my bad dancing can't get around the rumor mill.  LOL!

I am not going to put a picture up just yet of myself because frankly I am embarrassed by it but I will keep this site updated and will add before and afters when I reach my first goal of 10 lbs and some inches lost!

Ugh....why does it have to be so hard?  So easy to put it on but so incredibly difficult to take it off.

So here's to a new, healthier, and much skinnier me!!!!!!



Here is a little Throw Back Thursday to a time I thought I was fat!!!  WHAT??????
My inspiration picture.....I still have those jeans so maybe I should hang them in site to soon get back in them!


Sep 3, 2014

Courting or Dating?

My son Noah and I LOVE 19 kids and Counting!  I know a lot of people think they are crazy and maybe to the world they are BUT they definitely have some good kids.  I am thinking that if they weren't as "perfect" as they look then someone, somewhere would have already come out with a story or scandal but I can't seem to find one anywhere!  So, while I know they are not perfect I am going to believe that they definitely are doing something right.  
Lately, I have been so intrigued by their two older girls that are in a "courtship" with one now being married!  

As I write more keep that sweet face above in the picture in your mind!  My sweet Emily Grace!

I have started reading a lot on Courting and what it exactly means and the difference between that and dating.  I have read a lot about what the Duggar girls have to say on it and I totally agree with so much of what they say!  In our world today everything is "dirtied" or "sexed" up......I think those are real words!  But it's true!  I don't even let my kids watch music shows like the VMA's or Grammy's!  It's horrible what they are singing about and what you see on the screen.

Here are seven of the Duggar girl's rules to courtship....... Read the explanations of these rules here! CLICK HERE

Rule 1: Courting is not dating; it’s “dating with a purpose.” 

Rule 2: Three (or four, or 15) is NOT a crowd: There’s always a chaperone.

Rule 3: Brothers know best.  (This one makes me think of Emily on a date with her FOUR brothers.....one that is 13 years older, two that are Asian and one that could be a very intimidating black man one day!  LOL)

Rule 4: Texting? Ur parents r watching. 4 real.

Rule 5: No kissing or hand-holding.  (Until they are engaged then they can hold hands!)

Rule 6: To court a Duggar girl, you have to go through Dad.  (Poor boy that has to go through Marc!)

Rule 7: You can’t fail at courtship.

There are so many of the above rules that I agree with and think are great and who wouldn't want that for their children....especially our girls!  Don't they deserve that respect and purity?  I think they do!  I want my boys to be that man of God that respects girls and loves their spouse like Christ loves the church!  I want my daughter to marry a man who loves her that way.  I simply want the best for them!

Of course with this comes lots of question of HOW?  I have tons of questions like that.  Like what about if they go off to college in another town where you aren't there?  Are their many boys/men out there that are willing to "court"?  Any girls out there?  Is it sheltering them to much?  
And the list of questions go on.........

I am each morning praying for my boys and my sweet girl and asking God to prepare their mate now.....grow them into Godly women and Godly men.  So whether He chooses for them to date or to court I do not know but I do know that He has a plan for each other them!

We can set rules and instill morals and values but the rest is up to them and God!  

Good stuff to think about though for sure..........